Miray

 

 

How are you feeling right now? 

 

I feel amazing, I feel positive, obviously given the situation we’re in right now it feels a bif suffocating but there’s always better days ahead, and therefore we stay positive. 

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 How do you feel about your body?

 

Curvy, curvy and proud! I love my body and I’m thankful for the curves that I’ve been given therefore I love it. I don’t have a complaint right now. 

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 How do you feel about how you're supposed to dress at your size?

 

I still wear a variety of sizes, it really depends on the curves, but you know back in the day curvy women were seen as overweight, we had to hide our bodies. There were not enough dresses that fitted perfect to our bodies, and now, thank god, people are realising that there are so many natural curvy woman, and that we need different clothes for our different body types. A rule is just a person’s opinion, in my opinion, if you’re confident in yourself then just do what feels right to you. Obviously, you can’t go out naked to a business interview, but if you feel like you’re confident enough to wear a skirt and a blouse, or trousers and a blazer, then do it because it doesn’t matter. Read the room but also stay true to yourself. 

 

 Have you ever felt sexualised by your size? 

 

You know what, normally I wear body con dresses and I’m comfortable with the things I wear, but if I was slimmer and wore the same outfits it wouldn’t be as eye catching. This is because society sexualises the curvy body type, such as bib boobs and big bum. In my opinion a slim individual can be as sexy. It’s how you perceive yourself, sometimes I feel sexy, beautiful and confident, and then there are some days where I feel down. It’s how you perceive yourself I think; other people don’t matter. I’m going to keep saying this, because it doesn’t matter how other people think, it’s how you think, confidence is what you think about yourself. Be proud of yourself. 

 

 What do you think the assumptions are that people make about you? 

 

So, I always say that because I normally wear body con dresses throughout the day, and wear stiletto heels (I’ve got like 28 pairs and I love them), I feel like people think ‘oh she dresses up, and she obviously wants attention from other people, blah blah blah’ and ‘she’s wearing figure hugging stuff, so the boys will look at her’. First of all, boys have nothing to do with this equation, I can imagine people say things like that, but I’m comfortable with the things I wear, and I see myself as beautiful in them and if I want to wear it, what are people going to say? If they say stuff it doesn’t matter, because once people get to know me and talk to me, then they’ll realise that I’m very career driven, I’m very ambitious, I don’t really care about dating guys. BUT, if I wanted to go out and do that, SO WHAT? DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY PEOPLE! As a society we put people in a box and it's sad. Therefore, it's better to get to know someone rather than judging then physically.

 

 Do you think losing weight would change the way people saw you? 

 

I’ve been curvy all my life, before I came to university I was much slimmer, I still had my curves (like my boobs and bum), but I put on weight at university and therefore my curves got bigger. I think people wouldn’t change the way they saw me, they’d just be like ‘oh okay you lost weight, cool’, but I am me so the shouldn’t change their opinion on me.  

 

What do you think you've struggled the most with? 

 

Oh my god, I definitely struggled the most with my legs because they’re literally like a donna kabab on a shish (ha ha). But now, even though that was the biggest thing I struggled with, I used to literally cry and tell my mum things like ‘oh my god mum I’ve got these genes from you, why can’t I be like my dad why can’t I be skinny, look at my legs, blah blah blah’, but now I’m just like, thick legs, yes! A natural cup holder when you're sitting down (ha ha). They are very useful, made of steel legs. Even though I struggled with them, I don’t anymore. I love them and I thank them for allowing me to walk. 

 

How do you feel being naked?  

 

I feel like, back in the day, we weren’t as a society shown a lot of natural bodies, we didn’t see them a lot, so therefore when I’d look at myself, I used to be like ‘oh my god my boobs are so saggy, I’ve got a big chin, and make comments about my cellulite. But now I feel like as a society we are starting to accept cellulite, wrinkles, and stretch marks. I feel better because there a more examples and role models in the world and we are starting accept the way we actually are rather than trying to go on mad diets and being unhealthy, just in order to loose weight. I feel better being naked now, because I see more body types like mine. There are times I wear push up bras and times where I let the twins free (ha ha). We love to see it!

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How do you feel about shopping? 

 

Oh my god, I love shopping, whenever I buy new clothes, I’m like oh my god I feel really powerful, we all love seeing new things on ourselves and it actually makes me feel good. I like to plan my outfits, next Thursday I can wear this dress with these heals. I love shopping! Most of my wages go on shopping, don’t tell my parents! 

 

What do you love the most about you?

 

I love the fact I’m confident, obviously you doubt yourself, and think about what people say sometimes, every human does, but normally I’m very confident and I accept myself. There’s only one me in the world so why should I act like I’m someone I’m not? I accept myself, and I’m confident. 

 

When do you feel the most beautiful? 

 

When do I feel the most beautiful? I feel most beautiful when I wear my heels, I don’t have to wear make-up, I don’t have to wear tight dresses, but the fact that heels are on my feet and I just feel like this queen bee, I love it, I love wearing heels!

 

Why is your skin a good place to be in? 

 

Um, my skin is a good place to be in because I’m kind to myself even though I wear tight dress, heels and makeup most of the time, I accept that fact that, as a lady you’re not always going to feel like you want to do those things, so being comfortable makes it easier for you to be yourself. Sometimes I don’t wear makeup, sometimes I wear flowy dresses and sometimes I wear trainers and leggings. My skin is a good place to be in because I accept myself and I’m comfortable with the person I am, and I’m confident with that. Be confident, accept yourself, curves for life!